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“You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.”

As I sit here and reflect over past relationships, the above quote is so true.  I have had a few past relationships that I have revisited, knowing I shouldn’t have.  Can you relate? We all have that one (or maybe even more than one) that has an effect on us like no other, but if we stop and think about it, if that one was so special, we’d still be together.

How many times have you gone into a new relationship with baggage from an old relationship or better yet, have you dated someone or attempted to date someone who brought a lot of past hurt, disappointment, pain or trust issues into their relationship with you?  Do you remember how it made you feel to be dating someone like that? They, just like us, can’t move on to the next chapter of their life as long as they keep re-reading the last one.

It’s no different from reading a book. Once you have completed one chapter, you move on to the next one. Often times, you move on with excitement, anticipation…you just can’t wait to see what happens next.  We should take that same approach to relationships.  How much sense does it make to complete a chapter within a book and instead of going on to the next one, you re-read the last one? Ok, ok, I know some of you will say, “But what if I am reading for school and I didn’t fully comprehend the last chapter I read, so I went back & read it again to fully digest the contents?”  This approach is one a lot of us take when it comes to relationship. We get “stuck” on one subject and find ourselves falling behind.  If you get “stuck” on that past relationship that you keep visiting, you can’t move on to the next one. You are “stunting” your relationship growth.  You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading or re-visiting the last one.