I was watching a YouTube video discussing the question, “Does God choose your mate? Is this the one?” In the video, the husband talked about how he was previously engaged to another woman. He mentioned that it was a great relationship and she was a wonderful woman. He was set to be married, but he asked God about his romantic future because he wasn’t sure and God said, “You can have good or you can have My best – what you have right now would be a good choice, but it is not my best for you. And God said to him, “the choice is yours.” God left it up to his own free will. Our own free will – that’s a topic I will dive into on another day.
As I was watching the video, it made me ask, “When it comes to a mate, how do we know when it’s God speaking, our own emotions speaking, or the devil speaking?” I wish I had an answer to share with you, but I don’t. I’ve heard stories and know people who instantly knew that person was the one and they did, in fact, end up being the one.
But many people are so focused on being in a relationship – it’s not really about the person. It’s about being in a relationship. Have you ever been in a relationship with someone and although they were a good person, something about the relationship left you with a feeling of uncertainty? Have you ever justified staying with someone because they are a good person? No? Well I have. I stayed in a relationship or two longer than I should have and I rationalized it by saying, “he’s a good person with a good heart.” Perhaps I was fearful I wouldn’t meet another good person with a good heart. Who knows. The irony is that more times than not, every person after that person ended up being better than the last, and it made me grateful that I didn’t stay with someone just because he is a good person with a good heart.
If a life partner is what you seek, I encourage you to not settle for good when God has best waiting for you.