Building a healthy relationship with yourself and with others


When I woke up this morning, the subject expectations entered my mind, so I knew I wanted to write about it.  Ironically, I just heard a sermon that talked about expectations, which was confirmation that this should be my topic for today’s blog.

What are you EXPECTING in your life? Have you ever heard the expression that we call things into our life? Mark 12: 22-24, says, “And Jesus answered them, “Have faith in God. Truly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and thrown into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that what he says will come to pass, it will be done for him. Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.” Proverbs 18:21 says, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.”

Allow me to give you examples to paint the picture for you. Have you ever been in a situation where things were going great, but you were waiting for a shoe to drop? You convinced yourself that things can’t really be this good, so you start to expect the bad to happen. You may have even started to do things that resulted in your expectation becoming reality.  You “called” it into your life and when it happened, you told yourself, “I knew this was too good to be true.” The reality is, sometimes it really was that good, but your expectation of bad, your past pains, your past disappointment, past hurts, feeling like you don’t deserve, questioning how did you get so lucky for it to be happening to you…you REQUESTED it and you got what YOU expected.

Oprah Winfrey is quoted as saying, “You don’t get in life what you want, you get what you believe.” I believe I’m going to get a bad boss. I believe he/she is going to be just like everybody else I dated. I believe that if I move forward with this before I THINK I am ready, I am going to mess it up. The company is going through layoffs, I know I am going to lose my job. Some people are so used to being disappointed, angry, dysfunctional, unhappy or so used to losing until it has become their comfort zone.  They even find people who are like them – miserable, bad things always seem to happen, always picking the wrong men/women, always got some drama going on in their life.  Your expectations are drawing you closer to people with similar expectations.

I heard a preacher say once, “Your faith will never have anything to do until you break your routine.”  Faith is the substance of things you hope for. What are you hoping for? Have you ever gotten what you hoped for and your actions or your expectations caused you to push it away? Some people are hard to encourage because they don’t want to breakup their routine that they have created around low expectations.  They are so afraid of failure that they will not try.

I read somewhere, “I will make it a habit to consciously speak LIFE, watch my words at all times and believe in God & what He has for me shall come to pass. I will be intentional in every area of my life. Focus on the things you want/desire. Give no energy to the things you do not want.  Watch how things start to shift.”  Your expectations determine your future. Before you start reaching out to me saying that expectations alone cannot determine your future, expectations set the wheels in motion that lead to actions that are aligned with what you expect.  One more thing about expectations. Don’t set low expectations – AIM HIGHER!

 

 

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