During my drive in to work this morning, I was talking to one of my guy friends who is like a brother to me and he was sharing about the woman he is dating. They started dating about a month and a half ago, and it is more evident that he is smitten by her. That made me smile. We all want our friends to find that person who gives them butterflies. He said some things that stood out to me. He said:
- Being with her is easy.
- She makes my life better.
- I miss her when she leaves me.
- I know she is the one, that’s why I am courting her. I even asked her to be my girlfriend.
- She’s stern about some things, but I like that about her.
As I am listening to him, it literally made me smile. There’s something beautiful about when two people feel the same way about each other at the same time. It’s not about how long they have known each other. It’s about living in the moments as they occur and being open to what’s happening to you and for you. He said there are some things about her personality that other men may think she’s hard to love, but I see them as attributes. Attributes…it’s amazingly beautiful how the things some people may have complained about, another person sees as an attribute to who you are and how having that trait/characteristic/whatever you call it, is a good thing, not a bad thing.
Relationships don’t have to be complicated. We make them that way. We over think things. We have timetables. We try to control them. We allow our fears of “this is too good to be true” or “this person can’t really be this way” or expecting some shoe to drop to override what is happening in the now. And sometimes, we also allow our past to impact our future. By that I mean, we are so busy trying not to make the same mistake we made before that we push a good person away.
There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship, but when you are blessed to “link up” with the right one, don’t allow easy breezy to scare you. Embrace it and thank whatever Higher Power you serve for allowing you to be blessed to experience it and just enjoy it, nurture it, appreciate it, and keep on smiling. 🙂
And for those of you who desire a love like that, don’t lose hope. Don’t let the negativity you see on social media, hear from your family and friends, etc., cause you to believe that you will never get it. If you want it, focus on that. Start making room in your life for it to enter. Ask God to prepare YOU for it. You really can have what you seek.