Building a healthy relationship with yourself and with others

Who Are You?


We’ve all heard the expression, “Know Thyself”. Over the weekend, I was interviewed and the first question I was asked was, “Who is Nicole L. Turner?” Even for a person like me who is high on the self-awareness scale, I struggle with that question.  Many people will answer that question by saying, “Nicole L. Turner is a Detox Strategist, author, consultant, etc.” That describes what I do – not who I am.  Who I am is what leads me to do those things.

Do you know who you are? If someone asked you that question, what would you answer be? If you could peel back the layers, what would the seeds of your soul, your core look like? Do you see yourself differently from the way other people see you? Are you in a trap of self-delusion or self-deception?

I read somewhere that, “Much of our behavior is driven by unconscious processes. It’s been estimated that every second, our five senses take in eleven million pieces of information. We know this because scientists have counted the number of receptor cells on each sense organ and the nerves that go from these cells to the brain. However, we can only consciously process about forty bits of information a second. So large parts of our experience are unavoidably unknowable to us as far as conscious awareness is concerned.” After reading that, you may say, well if large parts of our experiences are unavoidably unknown to us consciously, can I really know myself? We may not need to be conscious of every behavior, but it is important to know what influences the behavior.

To help you better understand who you are, ask yourself the following questions:

  1. What do you believe is the meaning of your life?
  1. Do you believe your destiny is pre-determined or in your hands to shape however you wish?
  1. What is your biggest self-limiting belief?
  2. What is your highest core value?
  3. What kind of legacy do you want to leave behind?
  4. What do you believe is possible for you?
  5. What do you fear most in life? What do you think drives that fear?
  6. What have you done in your life that you are most proud of?
  7. What activity in your life lights you up with joy?
  8. How does your being here change humanity for the better?

Yes, I know some of these questions require you to really think, but their purpose is to make you look deeper into yourself and answer the question, “WHO AM I?”

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