As I continue on this journey called life, trying to figure it all out…connect the dots, I can actually see the number of times I was so close, but yet so far. So close to that actual breakthrough – that one thing that was going to catapult me into success (my own personal definition of what success looks like for me). It was so close that I could almost reach out and touch it, but…..in the very center of my blinking eye, it appeared so far away.
I’ve had the opportunity to share a stage or be interviewed with people I now see on Primetime TV or in magazines or with hundreds of thousands of followers on social media. I mean like we were, at some point in time, on equal playing fields, but then….when they pulled back on their slingshot, they landed in the RIGHT place at the Right time. I pulled back on my slingshot, and it’s as if it was broken.
Have you ever been so close to that ONE thing…you know THAT thing, but it seemed like the Universe was teasing you? You could visualize it. You could darn near taste it, but you just could never seem to be able to hold it in your hands. I have experienced this in various areas of my life: my career, my business, my romantic relationships, my finances. I would find myself saying, “This was almost it, so I know the next one will be It”, but ummm the next one wasn’t it. It’s hard to not get discouraged, especially when you see other people thriving, but you seem to be standing still.
I want to share a few tips with you that will help you stay encouraged and make you unstoppable:
- Don’t be motivated by something external (e.g., money, fancy things, prestige, etc.). There are people with money, big houses, fancy cars, etc., but they are still miserable on the inside. Yes, they keep pushing themselves to get the things society tells them they should have, but the light within them is dim. Stay true to who you are, and use the gifts and talents YOU were blessed with. Live life on YOUR terms.
- Remember CONFIDENCE is your greatest strength. If you’re not confident, you will never put yourself out there in the first place. When you’re confident, you don’t care how many times you fail, you’re going to succeed. And it doesn’t matter how stacked the odds seem against you.
- Always be prepared. Become a master of your craft.
- Always work on your mental strength. “Mental resilience is arguably the most critical trait of a world-class performer. ~ Josh Waitzkin
- Never be jealous or envious of someone else’s accomplishments. Being unstoppable means you genuinely want what’s best for everyone — even those you would consider your competitors. Jealousy and envy are the ego, which operates out of fear. You are in control of you and you are different from every other person. There is no one who can do exactly what you can do. You have your own superpower with your own unique ability to contribute, and that’s what you’re going to do.
- Start before you’re ready. Most people wait. They believe they can start after they have enough time, money, connections and credentials. They wait until they feel “secure.” Not people who are unstoppable. Unstoppable people started last year. They started five years ago before they even knew what they were doing. They started before they had any money. They started before they had all the answers. They started when no one else believed in them. The only permission they needed was the voice inside them prompting them to move forward, and they moved.
- Set goals that far exceed your current capabilities. If your goals are logical, they won’t force you to create luck. Being unstoppable means your goals challenge you to be someone more than you currently are. As Jim Rohn has said, “Don’t wish it was easier, wish you were better.” “You need to aim beyond what you are capable of. You need to develop a complete disregard for where your abilities end. If you think you’re unable to work for the best company in its sphere, make that your aim. If you think you’re unable to be on the cover of TIME magazine, make it your business to be there. Make your vision of where you want to be a reality. Nothing is impossible.” — Paul Arden
- Respond immediately, rather than analyzing and stalling. Just do it. Train yourself to respond immediately when you feel you should do something. Stop questioning yourself. Don’t analyze it. Don’t question if it came from God or from yourself. Just act. You’ll figure out what to do after you’ve taken action. Until you take action, it will all be hypothetical. But once you act, it becomes practical. Richard Branson said it best, “If somebody offers you an amazing opportunity but you are not sure you can do it, say yes – then learn how to do it later!”
- Never stop learning. Ordinary people seek entertainment. Extraordinary people seek education and learning. When you want to become the best at what you do, you never stop learning. You never stop improving and honing your skills and knowledge.
(Tips were extracted from the article, “30 Behaviors That Will Make You Unstoppable”)