Who’s full of more drama? Men or women?

What prompted me to ask this question is that women are often labeled as drama queens, but over my years of dating, I have run across quite a few guys who bring the drama.  Excuse my expression, but I often say, “I find a way to bring the bitch out of men.”  Now, I know this is not just my experience, so ladies, can you relate?  And fellas, what is it about a woman that makes you dramatic?

Enhancement…..

To enhance means to improve or make better.

Why do some people end up in relationships with people who don’t enhance their life?

Why do some people end up in a relationship with someone who does absolutely nothing for them.

I am sure some of you instantly went to monetary things, but that’s not the only type of enhancement in a relationship. What about support, having your back, being your best friend, complementing your weak areas with his/her strong areas, growing together……you get my point.

Sensual Seduction…..

“We don’t go to the mall, we don’t go out to eat, eat, eeeeat,
And all that we ever do is play in the sheets,sheets sheeets,
Smoke us a cigarette, and go back to sleep, sleep, sleep, so we can get a!”

Whenever I hear this verse in the Sensual Seduction song, it makes me think about sexship versus relationship.  Yeah there are some people who are in a “sexship” by choice & b/c both parties have agreed upon it, but what about those relationships where it was never discussed, never agreed upon. What about those relationships where he can sex you, but not date you?

How do people who really want to be in a relationship end up in a “sexship”?

Woo….

No, I am not talking about the movie, Woo  http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0120531/trailers-screenplay-E10112-310

To woo someone means to court them or to make amorous advances towards. Do you remember hearing your grandparents talk about courting back in the day?

Have you noticed that people don’t really engage in courtships anymore? Fellas when was the last time you woo’d a woman?  Ladies, have you ever been woo’d by a man?  And this has nothing to do with sex.

The Past….

Have you noticed that when you meet someone new, they ask you all these questions about your past?

Have you noticed how some of those things you revealed early on come back to bite you in the butt when you are actually in a committed relationship?

In a relationship, do you really want to know the nitty gritty details of your mate’s past?

Is it true that women give up way too much information early on?

Cheaters

Why do men expect women to forgive them when they cheat, but men are unable to forgive women when they cheat?

Mind vs Heart (poem)

For a little while there,
My emotions were all messed up.
But now I’ve found some closure,
And my mind and heart made up.My mind knew the whole while,
That nothing would come to be.
It knew it was a spurt of time,
Before you would be a memory.

My heart on the other hand,
Never cared about the facts.
It knew that you would leave,
But was still waiting for you to come back.

My heart would not take the hint,
Though my mind was telling the truth.
My heart had decided,
It was going to wait for you.

It took a lot of convincing,
On my mind’s behalf.
To make my heart realize,
That you were not coming back.

My heart started to accept it,
But then you popped back in my life.
My mind versus my heart,
The battle starts again in strife.

So the war between the two,
Went on for a little while.
My physical being paid for it,
I never used to smile.

I’m not sure how it happened,
But now everything is alright.
My mind and heart came to terms,
Trust me, it was a fight.

My heart has finally realized,
To put it’s feelings to an end.
My heart now has the power,
To now think of you as friend

My mind had to make a sacrifice,
To help my heart along it’s way.
My mind had to agree,
That one day things may change.

As hard as my heart is fighting,
My mind won’t let it love,
My inner turmoil is over,
My heart is now locked in a steel glove.

Written by Lilsnob

Nikki Bares Her Soul

Sharing another one of my playlists

http://www.sonific.com/songspot/standalone/e45f26dc546fe6c717fdbc5cb14c3256062a8714

80/20 Clip

Someone was looking for the 80/20 URL from the movie, “Why Did I Get Married” & couldn’t find it, so here it is again. 

http://www.blackfilm.com/20071005/features/wdigm_clip2.shtml

Nikki’s Jazzy Soul

If you like Jazz, check out my playlist. Enjoy! 

http://sonific.com/songspot/standalone/95e827f947fcfdb439223b9b887f9fa631daa048