What turns you off?
When I have my He Said, She Said roundtable discussions, one question that always seems to come up is, “What turns you off in a relationship?” I have listened to men and women over analyze what went wrong early on in a relationship or a “dateship.” Often times, we fail to tell the person what turned us off or what they did wrong. They really do want to know so they won’t make the same mistakes over & over & over. What are some of the things that quickly turn you off when you are getting to know someone?
I’ll answer my own question. One of the things that turn me off early on is if a guy comes across as too pressed. What is too pressed? Calling me all the time (i.e., multiple calls back-to-back). Another thing that turns me off is inconsistencies. I HATE inconsistencies. Another thing that turns me off is evasiveness. By that I mean, avoiding answering questions – answering questions like a politician. LOL
Nagging is the worst thing a woman can do. If more women understood this, it would be a better world.
It turns me off when men try to insult my intelligence…for example…men often will you give you the lamest bullshit and expect you to believe it as if intelligent women can’t read between the lines, or shall I say, see the forest for the trees. Trust me fellas, it’s not that serious! Perhaps if you were more true to yourselves, you’d earn more respect and admiration from women for your truths, as opposed to disgust and detestation for your lies!
Journey,
I must agree with you. A lot of men really do think women are stupid or clueless, like we aren’t hipped to their game. The problem is that some women accept it and/or fall for it and they think we are all that way. I look at this way, they won’t be young or semi-young forever nor will some of them be healthy always then they will wish they had left the bullshit alone and found someone to be true to. No one really wants to grow old alone. But some men play so many games with so many women & think their rep doesn’t get out there. In the end, they don’t end up with the woman they really want, they end up settling for the one who tolerates their bullshit.
Nik, you took the sentiments right off of my thought process; they go at it for so long, then get taken advantage of by trollops when they get old. As the old adage says…”What goes around, comes around!”
What turns me off is when I the man I am talking knows all the stats for every person in the NBA & NFL but can’t tell you one thing about his OWN goals, dreams, or aspirations. Athletes are getting paid to do what they do. I need to know that my man will know more about what’s affecting us like the economy and not just what’s on ESPN.
I hate dishonesty. Early on in relationships, men tend to not tell you what they want or what they are looking for. By the time you find out, its waaaay too late and feelings get hurt and tires get slashed (just kidding)…… LOL. On the real though, It would be nice to have honesty in the person and not BS and them telling you what they THINK you want to hear instead of the truth.
Tysha,
You hit it dead on the nail. Often times men don’t tell you that they only want a friendship, or they are dating multiple people, or they are only interested in a sexship or they have no desire to be committed – you get my point. And then when you catch feelings, they act like they told you something from the jump that they never told you.