I bought this book because I feel there are things I need to know before I say I do & I believe it is a good book. Single people should check it out……
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Before-You-Do/TD-Jakes/e/9781416547280
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Are women starting to display traits that have commonly been associated with men (i.e., cold, heart-less, insensitive, dogs, cheaters)?
Are men starting to display traits that have commonly been associated with women (i.e., sensitive, obsessed with vanity issues {metrosexual is the word they use to describe that}, insecure, carry a lot of baggage)?
A back in the day song – Shalamar’s “Second Time Around”
The second time around
Ooh, the second time is so much better, baby
The second time around
And I’ll make it better than the first time
You know I really love you
And I paid for my mistakes, yes, I did, girl
The more I try to hide my feelings, baby
This old heart gets in the way
And love won’t let me wait
The second time around
Girl, with me it’s better than the first time
The second time around
Let’s do it one more time, say it again
The second time around
All that I’ve been through, I’ll do it again just as long as I’m with you
The second time around
Ho…the second time
QUESTION – SHOULD YOU DATE YOUR EX? If it didn’t work the first time, is it possible it can work the second time around?
I was looking @ a recent post & it appears that most women think all men cheat. For many years, women have said, “All men are dogs” or “All men cheat.” I believe there are men out there who don’t cheat. I think part of the problem is that some women don’t gravitate to the men who will treat them like a queen. Some women tend to gravitate to that man that every woman is gravitating too. So with that being said, is it part of the woman’s fault that men cheat? Men can’t cheat if there aren’t women out there who are willing to be the other woman. Yes, I know some men, a lot of men, lie about their status, but that aside, there are women who go into a relationship with a dude knowing that he has a woman. And on the flip side of that, a woman can be cheated on multiple times & still take that dude back – sending him the message that no matter how many times you cheat on me or how many times I say I am done, I am still going to take you back. So are we (men and women) equally at fault for a cheating man’s behavior?
Fellas, have you ever been kicking it with a woman and you started to really feel her and you find out she has a boyfriend or worse, a husband?
Ladies, have you ever been involved with a guy & he often reminded you that he wasn’t interested in a committed relationship, but as soon as you stopped kicking it with him or going through the motions with him, he committed to someone else?
Why do you think these things happen?
When I have my He Said, She Said roundtable discussions, one question that always seems to come up is, “What turns you off in a relationship?” I have listened to men and women over analyze what went wrong early on in a relationship or a “dateship.” Often times, we fail to tell the person what turned us off or what they did wrong. They really do want to know so they won’t make the same mistakes over & over & over. What are some of the things that quickly turn you off when you are getting to know someone?
Mixed signals are unclear messages; contradicting messages. Ok, we all can relate to mixed signals. We have either received them or sent them. What’s the premise behind mixed signals? Are they playing a game? Are they confused? Are they just fickle? When you are in a relationship with someone, trying to decode the mixed signals can be a tedious task. Have you ever been involved with someone & one minute you thought they really liked you & the next minute you were like, “what the hell is going on?” Why do people send mixed signals in a relationship?
